When people ask why you no longer keep in touch, remind them of the times when you would reach out to them and check in on them, only to receive a dismal response and lack of equal reciprocation from their end.
When people ask why you have become quiet, let them know the number of times you spoke up for yourself only to be gaslighted and manipulated into silence. Let them know that communication can only happen with people who comprehend communication and seek to resolve the issue rather than highlight ‘you’ as the problem. If the mindset doesn’t match, there is no need to waste words for ‘resolution’.
When people ask why you don’t call back, remind them of the times when they would reach out to you to fulfil their selfish interests. Let them know that you are no longer a fool for tolerating their selfish intentions and providing them the benefit of doubt because of the goodness in your heart.
When people mention that you have become detached, remember the times when you were left to pick up the broken pieces of your heart all alone. You fought your battles. Alone. You weathered the storms of your life. Alone. You faced your rock bottom. Alone. Because when you reached out, nobody bothered. Nobody came forward. Nobody gave you the time of their day. You were only important when you fulfilled their goals. But there was no genuine interest in you or in your wellbeing.
When people say you have changed, let them know you no longer serve their purpose. You have always had to stand up and defend yourself, but not even once did they come forth to support you, to advocate for you, to vouch for you and to help you in your dire times. They guided you to serve their ambitions. They spoke to you to save themselves. In a world of grey shades of morality and toxic red flags, you had to become the warrior whose principles were as clear as black and white. You had to figure out through testing times ways to ward off the hurdles thrown in your path like a sword that slays its enemies.
When people say that you are important to them, laugh and give them a dictionary so that they don’t use words so casually while treating you like an option. Question their inconsistency and ask them to match their words with their actions.
When people say they still believe in you and your value, restrict the access. Because if they really did, they would have been there in your struggle. They would have turned up. No questions asked. No mixed signals given. No doubts about their dependability. They made it clear where you stand in their life with the way they treated you throughout. Now it’s your turn.
When people ask whether you have forgotten them, smile and say you never did, precisely the reason why you stayed away from them. Because you realized their covert manipulation tactics and never-ending tirade of insecure projections were not your responsibility to fix and change. You meant well for them, they didn’t value you the same way – either you were their prize to conquer or their plastic to throw away after use. You know you are way above what they thought of you. Karma will find them when you attain your salvation.
Stay true to you and your story. You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Missfithinker 